I stared at the bathroom mirror not really seeing my reflection. I saw instead through my peripheral sight, my newly constructed vision sheet. It sparkled with its artistically designed collection of my future ambitions and goals.
Little did I know that, according to Paulo Coelho in that fated moment that my Bic pen (yes they still exist) hit that piece of paper…. the minute those squiggles that form words and language were drawn on my son’s construction parchment… In that very moment…
“The universe started to conspire to bring me eveything I had asked for” – The Alchemist, Paulo Coelho.
Based on the law of polarity, as low as you can go is as high as you will fly. In other words, the universe heeded my request by first bringing me to a depth I had not previously known so that I could eventually attain the height that I desired. There is a direct relationship between how low we go and how high we can fly.
So, back to the question: What do we learn when we lose?
- If we lose friends and associates, we learn how to be self reliant.
- If we lose financial abundance, we learn how to use our creativity to get things done.
- If we lose our indpendence, we learn how to humbly depend on others.
- We lose our material possessions to learn that happiness does not depend on them.
- We lose our sense of security to learn that no such thing truly exists.
Trust me the universe is not partial. If you require success, it will drag you through the depths you need to experience in order to achieve this success. I dare mention here the old adage, ‘Be careful what you wish/pray/ask for’.
If your ambitions are high and your dreams lofty, you will lose. You have to lose. It is the only path to grow into what you desire to become. If you desire spiritual enlightenment, you will lose the comfort of all the beliefs that you were taught about spirituality.
No one can attain a higher level by staying on the same plane. There are thigs you will have to let go to move up. These are things you will lose, possibly repeatedly until you get the message… until your mental paradigm is forcefully shifted into a new set of beliefs.
This is why you lose… anything. And this is how you learn.
The paper on the bathroom mirror included a starburst with the words “Monthly income of $450,000” written in. At some point on the journey, when my vision expanded exponentially I wrote the EBook, Creating a Wealthy Mindset. I then went back to that bathroom mirror and I added a ‘0’ to that figure.
“Monthly income of $4,500,000” it now read. Almost immediately, I started to experience more loss. The previous challenges I had been through prepared me for a $450,000 monthly income not a four point five million dollar one! So, I had to be plunged even further down in order to be prepared for a seven figure income.
That innocent act of writing another zero on my expected monthly earnings, catapulted a series of changes and the universe conspired even further to help me achieve this goal. I faced more loss, more betrayal, more disappointments. I experienced a lonliness that is still indescribable. The 450,000 dollar plans started to fail one by one to make way for 4.5 million dollar plans.
“Every adversity, every failure and every heartache, carries within it the seed of an equal or greater benefit” – Napoleon Hill
Decide how high you desire to fly and prepare for the equal depths of loss and failure. My hope is that in understanding exactly what’s happening to you, you wont give up. There is a method to this madness.
Feel free to share your own experiences with failure and loss and how you learned from them.