Overcoming ‘Shiny Job’ Syndrome

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“We are going to have to let you go”.

I heard the words with the surreal realization that I was saying them.

I was firing someone.

As a person who feels deeply, one of my greatest challenges in business was separating my empathy from what had to be done. This employee had received several warnings and probations, but simply refused to or was incapable of complying with our customer service policy.

She had to be let go. I hadn’t made the decision but I supported it and I had to be the one to do it. As operations manager of a fairly small grocery store, the bulk of personnel management duties fell in my lap. I knew it wouldn’t have been a pleasant experience, yet I was not prepared for the begging, the tears, the promises to improve.

At this point, my hands were tied. I had to let her go.

I tried exploring options with her. “What will you do?” (That empathy thing again)

Between sobs, I happened to pick ip a few distressed phrases.. “hairdressing” “beautician certified”…

You’re telling me you have a very practical and high-demand skill yet you choose to stay here and work for someone else as a cashier? Why would you want to do that instead of starting your own business? You could work from home, decide on your own hours, set your own prices… I was taken aback. I had always wished I had a skill that could bring in an extra income..

I couldn’t understand the rationale of this employee. After almost an hour locked in my office, I convinced her to set up her business, offered to print her first set of 100 business cards and to get a few customers (my sisters) to support her initial efforts.

She had the opportunity to easily earn twice what she did now, tax free, working less hours and days than she currently did. Bonus, she didn’t have to operate in a constricting slave like environment or suffer an insufferable boss. My dad wasn’t the most human-asset friendly business owner. He is from an outdated era.

I call this the “Shiny Job Syndrome”. We have been fed the false idea that success is defined as ‘being employed’. We mentally pedestalize this belief and automatedly follow a programing that is outdated.

No matter how impressive the salary, a company can never accurately pay you for the value that you add and the time that you give. No matter how secure the position, there is always the possibility of being laid off, fired, or of the company going bankrupt or out of business. No matter how prestigious the title, depending on the whims and decisions of others steals your creativity. No matter how much initiative you are allowed to exercise, you will never be at the helm.

We spend our lives trying valiantly to protect ourselves from the same crises that will catapult us towards freedom and financial independence.

For years, I wanted to write. I was dissatisfied with my job. Yet, it wasn’t until I lost it all; the income, the security, the great apartment… Not until then did I find the courage to follow my dream with the only thing I had left. Me. I had nothing but myself, my time, my creativity, my initiative, my goals, my dreams, my desires.

It felt strange not having someone to answer to; not having a boss telling me what to do. How would I know when I was doing something wrong?

“You never realize how bound you are until you feel the heavy responsibility of freedom”.

And, it’s scary.

It is a scary thought knowing that, without instructions, every failure, every fumble is your own. There is no one to blame, no company policy to fall back on, no employee assessment to scrape through. But, beyond that fear, lay exhilaration. The thrill that I was creating something that was all me… No template, no rules.. no standards, no limitations. No commission. All mine. Loss or win, I owned the outcome completely.

And, to me that was worth it.

I had to carve out an identity. My old one was lost on having to answer to bosses, fit into corporate images and absorbing job-ideal expectations. I determined that if there ever was a business culture I wanted to support it would be one built on freedom. On the right of every human being to discover and pursue his or passion.

Instead of passively disciplining people, I wanted to help them discover the courage to start their own businesses using skills and interests and passions. So I wrote a book and started this blog.

I made a decision that the risks were worth it, the initial rejections – worth it. The up hill struggle to get that first client – totally worth it. Just to gain my independence, live my passion and do something meaning to me on a personal level.

It’s not easy, but with a little guidance and lots of determination, it can be done.

Check out Creating a Wealthy Mindset on Amazon for practical methods of unplugging your mind from the Shiny Job Syndrome mindset.

Think Your Way To Success

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Consider your thoughts and dreams a preview of your life’s coming attractions.

At the risk of sounding a bit ‘New agey’, this concept isn’t very different from the law of attraction. At the risk of sounding like a hard, cold scientist, there is logic to the theory and it has been proven repeatedly.

Whether or not you have difficulties believing the theory , this line of thought bears a lot of weight. Skeptics can no longer deny the power of the human mind. Scientists in a never ending need to prove everything, have begun to explore metaphysics as a discipline in an effort to explain previously mysterious phenomena.

The take away message remains the same:

The human brain is much more powerful than we have previously believed.

Simply put, your thoughts play a huge role when it comes to your success.

The earliest clues came from studying conditions such as phobias or compulsions in an adult life that could be traced back to adverse childhood experiences. For example, a near drowning experience as a child will lead to an adult terrified of learning how to swim. This person develops a strong fear of going near large bodies of water without knowing why. They may not even remember the childhood episode. The subconscious in an effort to protect the child, laid down a program declaring that “going near water is unsafe” followed automatically by the conscious. The person carries this belief into adulthood.

What false beliefs have you been carrying around?

To achieve success, you must remove these false protectors that your brain has established in an effort to keep you safe. You are now an adult. You are  mature enough to take precautions and calculate the risks involved in your actions. You are no longer helpless and incapable of protecting yourself. Unfortunately, your brain may still be operating on that old software.

If thoughts and beliefs that oppose success are buried in your subconscious then you are the only one standing in your own way.

If you grew up hearing statements such as “money doesn’t grow on trees”, “only bad people like druggists or thieves attain wealth”, “money has to do with luck in life”, or even “learn to live within your means”, your mental programming has been blocking you from success.

In Creating a Wealthy Mindset, I outline all the success-stopping false beliefs along with methodological ways to eliminate these obstacles.

Start removing your mental barriers today. Email me at repaintingthewheel@gmail.com to order your copy. Also available on Amazon here.