Overcoming ‘Shiny Job’ Syndrome

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“We are going to have to let you go”.

I heard the words with the surreal realization that I was saying them.

I was firing someone.

As a person who feels deeply, one of my greatest challenges in business was separating my empathy from what had to be done. This employee had received several warnings and probations, but simply refused to or was incapable of complying with our customer service policy.

She had to be let go. I hadn’t made the decision but I supported it and I had to be the one to do it. As operations manager of a fairly small grocery store, the bulk of personnel management duties fell in my lap. I knew it wouldn’t have been a pleasant experience, yet I was not prepared for the begging, the tears, the promises to improve.

At this point, my hands were tied. I had to let her go.

I tried exploring options with her. “What will you do?” (That empathy thing again)

Between sobs, I happened to pick ip a few distressed phrases.. “hairdressing” “beautician certified”…

You’re telling me you have a very practical and high-demand skill yet you choose to stay here and work for someone else as a cashier? Why would you want to do that instead of starting your own business? You could work from home, decide on your own hours, set your own prices… I was taken aback. I had always wished I had a skill that could bring in an extra income..

I couldn’t understand the rationale of this employee. After almost an hour locked in my office, I convinced her to set up her business, offered to print her first set of 100 business cards and to get a few customers (my sisters) to support her initial efforts.

She had the opportunity to easily earn twice what she did now, tax free, working less hours and days than she currently did. Bonus, she didn’t have to operate in a constricting slave like environment or suffer an insufferable boss. My dad wasn’t the most human-asset friendly business owner. He is from an outdated era.

I call this the “Shiny Job Syndrome”. We have been fed the false idea that success is defined as ‘being employed’. We mentally pedestalize this belief and automatedly follow a programing that is outdated.

No matter how impressive the salary, a company can never accurately pay you for the value that you add and the time that you give. No matter how secure the position, there is always the possibility of being laid off, fired, or of the company going bankrupt or out of business. No matter how prestigious the title, depending on the whims and decisions of others steals your creativity. No matter how much initiative you are allowed to exercise, you will never be at the helm.

We spend our lives trying valiantly to protect ourselves from the same crises that will catapult us towards freedom and financial independence.

For years, I wanted to write. I was dissatisfied with my job. Yet, it wasn’t until I lost it all; the income, the security, the great apartment… Not until then did I find the courage to follow my dream with the only thing I had left. Me. I had nothing but myself, my time, my creativity, my initiative, my goals, my dreams, my desires.

It felt strange not having someone to answer to; not having a boss telling me what to do. How would I know when I was doing something wrong?

“You never realize how bound you are until you feel the heavy responsibility of freedom”.

And, it’s scary.

It is a scary thought knowing that, without instructions, every failure, every fumble is your own. There is no one to blame, no company policy to fall back on, no employee assessment to scrape through. But, beyond that fear, lay exhilaration. The thrill that I was creating something that was all me… No template, no rules.. no standards, no limitations. No commission. All mine. Loss or win, I owned the outcome completely.

And, to me that was worth it.

I had to carve out an identity. My old one was lost on having to answer to bosses, fit into corporate images and absorbing job-ideal expectations. I determined that if there ever was a business culture I wanted to support it would be one built on freedom. On the right of every human being to discover and pursue his or passion.

Instead of passively disciplining people, I wanted to help them discover the courage to start their own businesses using skills and interests and passions. So I wrote a book and started this blog.

I made a decision that the risks were worth it, the initial rejections – worth it. The up hill struggle to get that first client – totally worth it. Just to gain my independence, live my passion and do something meaning to me on a personal level.

It’s not easy, but with a little guidance and lots of determination, it can be done.

Check out Creating a Wealthy Mindset on Amazon for practical methods of unplugging your mind from the Shiny Job Syndrome mindset.

You Are NOT Your Job!

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Why is it so depressing to lose one’s job?

Ok, admittedly, you just lost the income you have been living off and depending on for food and bill payments. (that sentence was indeed quite depressing)

But really..

Even when you are still eating quite well, sleeping in a comfortable bed and not facing prison for any major debts, being unemployed just seems to have its own personal, dark cloud of gloom.

The problem is, like most other unshakable irrational characteristics of societal living, your job forms a huge part of your identities.

We let jobs decide just how valuable we feel. We allow them to dictate our worth as a contributing member of society. On an attached thread, we allow our salaries to determine our worth.

This is a destructive thought process considering we have very little control over being hired, fired or demoted at any time.

Despite what you have been hardwired to believe, your worth is not determined by your job.

Don’t believe me?

Think of all the skills and talents you have that do not directly contribute to your current job description. The boss doesn’t know about your amazing TV trivia skills. Neither does he know that you have a knack for fashion and constantly get complimented on your great outfits. The fact that you can make a moist yummy chocolate cake from scratch has never come up in a performance assessment.

Think about it.

Go ahead and take a minute to write down all the things that you are really good at and that you actually enjoy doing. The things you would never list on a resume because recruiters don’t give two hoots about those kinds of skills.

In fact, create a “life resume” listing all your amazing experiences. Add personal experiences you are really proud of such as quit smoking, taking  a public speaking course , learning a language or performing a choreographed, dance routine in front of hundreds of people. (Such memories)

Be sure to add all your great qualities, unique skills, the things that your friends always call you for advice about. All these things are what make you, you. Not your job. It is said humans only use a small percentage of the brain.

Well, most jobs only require a very small percentage of your entire life skills, strengths and abilities.

Do not be defined by your job. That is not who you are. It is something that you do for a living. If you ever feel the desire to make a living doing something that you really love and that you’re good at, check your life resume as a reference for ideas.

Start seeing yourself for what you are really worth. Your value and worth lies in the things that you enjoy doing and that you are also good at. If you can find a skill on that list which can be monetized, pursue it.

Instead of being defined by your current situation, you can change your thinking from ‘I need a job’ to ‘I desire to build wealth‘ by pursuing something you are truly passionate about. This simple shift will open up a world of possibilities you never saw before.

You are worth so much more than your job.

Entrepreneurship – Solving A Problem

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One of the most common complaints I get from clients is: “Starting a business is so complicated!”

If you have ever attempted to start a business, you would have found out that the red tape alone can choke you. The fees, the paperwork, the taxes, the business plans to beg for a loan… It is all just too much.

How about we simplify things by focusing on the essentials.

Simply put, entrepreneurship is just a long complicated word for ‘solving a problem’.

Every business you can think of whether they sell products or services, all have one thing in common. They offer something that will either simplify, enhance or improve the quality of lives in some way.

Grocery stores simplify our lives by making a wide variety of goods available in one location (platform). For this service, we pay them 15 – 30% extra on the cost of goods we purchase. But I can imagine we much prefer this arrangement to running all over town to the bakery, butcher, farmer etc in order to have our food needs met.

This mark up or profit of 15- 30% can be broken down into labour, packaging, energy cost (to keep meat frozen), rent etc. Every aspect of business can be simplified like this. If sales aren’t great this month, we find a way to increase awareness of our services (marketing) in order to attract more customers.

If if you ever get the feeling that you need a four year degree and years of accounting training to startup, just remember that all you will be doing is solving a problem, for a group of people (market, niche) who have a need.

You can do this.

No matter who or where you are there is something you can do to enhance someone else’s life; to improve their quality of living. You just need to get a little creative. Entrepreneurship banks on the fact that people like to have processes in their lives simplified.

Find a group of people with a problem you can solve. The beauty of E-Commerce is, you have access to a global community. This increases your likelihood of finding people with a problem you can solve. In addition, setting up a platform (website such as Shopify) and marketing (social media such as Facebook) is relatively easy and cheap compared to renting a brick and mortar store and purchasing equipment.

Clearly, your exit strategy (dropping everything and running for the hills if you fail) would be much smoother in E-Commerce as well.

So, think about a problem you can solve. Think about how you can reach the people who have the problem and how much you will charge for your services.

As the world evolves, new problems arise.

It has been said that during the gold rush, it wasn’t the persons doing the digging who made the most money, but rather the ones who sold the digging tools.

If you start a business, keep in mind that your main purpose isn’t profit but to solve a problem. Profit will always follow the solution. Read more on starting a successful business by solving  a problem in Chapter 18, Creating a Wealthy Mindset.

Happy problem solving (business building)!

Losing The Fear Of Change

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The tiles were yellow and faded.

Aged and handled magazines covered the coffee table. As I sat in the doctor’s office of my hometown, I saw several familiar faces. People I had known forever but never quite got around to meeting.

It was my first week on the road as a Pharmaceutical Rep. As I patiently waited for the receptionist to signal for me to steal a few minutes with the doctor, I overheard a conversation between two patients.

“I didn’t know you still lived in this town”. A young man in construction boots and soiled clothes responded, “I was born here. Where else would I be? I’m not going anywhere.”

A very simple realization that many people never get, is that fact that…

You are not a tree!

You are not planted where you were born or to any destination or situation that you happen to land in. You always have a choice to move. As humans, growth and change are not only natural, they are inevitable.

If you choose to stay where you are because you are very happy there, then that’s great! But that is very different from the notion of staying in one place simply because you were born (not planted) there.

You have to no obligation to stay where you are. Travel and explore. Have adventures and discover other places and things that resonate with your desires; your authenticity.

You owe it to yourself to find out what you like and dislike outside the influences of your hometown folk.

Similarly, never stay in a career or a job simply beacause you made that choice when you were younger. Never be afraid to move and try other things. Never be afraid to admit, “This isn’t for me. Let me try something else”. Discover your passion, try a new hobby, start a side business.

See what else is out there.

I dare you to move.

You can start by ordering a copy of Creating a Wealthy Mindset. Start by removing the mental untruths that have prevented you from living the life of your dreams.

Discover financial freedom and pave your path to success.

 

From Pain To Purpose

He who has the power of turning all negative vibes in his path into positive energy has learned the meaning of life

When I went broke, I experienced severe emotional pain. In my mind, there was nothing more painful than not having a steady stream of income. It stole my independence and my freedom – two of the things I valued dearly.

I got angry

Felt helpless

I felt like a slave to whomever I allowed to offer assistance. It was not a good feeling. I felt lesser than, beneath those who were still taking care of ‘biz’ and handling their lives with their steady incomes.

I also promised myself that I would help anyone who ever found themselves in these circumstances, which formed the foundation of ‘Creating a Wealthy Mindset’.

It soon dawned on me that my identity (idea of who I was) was so closely tied to being financially independent that not being in that place (no matter how temporary) was messing with my self esteem and causing great pain.

What did I have to offer now?

Who was I?

I felt diminished.

The issue wasn’t a lack of money. I certainly wasn’t starving. I ate each day satisfactorily and slept each night in safety. But the very thing I had identified my values with, was stripped from me.

People will fight and claw and do anything to protect that which identifies them.

Whatever you get your value from, is what you will fight tooth and nail for.

Getting and having money is great but what are your values and how are they tied in to how you make money, how you invest that money and your general contribution to the betterment of the world.

In other words, why the hell should you be wealthy?

If you are comfortable where you are right now, smooching off some relative, barely making it by each month what motivation is there to change, to move from where you are?

You need to tap into your pain source

What is the most painful thing about where you are?

Do they feed you but complain about it or give you attitude as they throw food in your mouth?

Do you long for freedom from other people’s idea of living.

So, what identifies you? What are your values? How do you define yourself?

This is your pain.

Use it. Wield it.

Put all that frustrating energy into creating your own life. Design it just the way you want. Let your pain help you to remain uncomfortable until you are where you want to be.

Transform that energy

That pain you feel now is your potential energy. Like a stone being pulled back in a slingshot. That stone holds within it massive energy to buss someone’s head if released (lol), but it won’t do any damage until it’s released. The pulling back of the stone increases its potential energy (the farther back it’s pulled, the greater force it will have when released).

The greater your potential energy (your pain), the greater the force when you become released. So, increase that pain when you can. Use it as your motivation to keep planning, keep going.

This is not the end of your story, merely a dark chapter. That middle chapter of your amazing biography. No great book goes without having a dark scary chapter for the hero/ heroine to overcome.

Dare you to move…

Stephanie ♥