Why is it so depressing to lose one’s job?
Ok, admittedly, you just lost the income you have been living off and depending on for food and bill payments. (that sentence was indeed quite depressing)
Even when you are still eating quite well, sleeping in a comfortable bed and not facing prison for any major debts, being unemployed just seems to have its own personal, dark cloud of gloom.
The problem is, like most other unshakable irrational characteristics of societal living, your job forms a huge part of your identities.
We let jobs decide just how valuable we feel. We allow them to dictate our worth as a contributing member of society. On an attached thread, we allow our salaries to determine our worth.
This is a destructive thought process considering we have very little control over being hired, fired or demoted at any time.
Despite what you have been hardwired to believe, your worth is not determined by your job.
Don’t believe me?
Think of all the skills and talents you have that do not directly contribute to your current job description. The boss doesn’t know about your amazing TV trivia skills. Neither does he know that you have a knack for fashion and constantly get complimented on your great outfits. The fact that you can make a moist yummy chocolate cake from scratch has never come up in a performance assessment.
Think about it.
Go ahead and take a minute to write down all the things that you are really good at and that you actually enjoy doing. The things you would never list on a resume because recruiters don’t give two hoots about those kinds of skills.
In fact, create a “life resume” listing all your amazing experiences. Add personal experiences you are really proud of such as quit smoking, taking a public speaking course , learning a language or performing a choreographed, dance routine in front of hundreds of people. (Such memories)
Be sure to add all your great qualities, unique skills, the things that your friends always call you for advice about. All these things are what make you, you. Not your job. It is said humans only use a small percentage of the brain.
Well, most jobs only require a very small percentage of your entire life skills, strengths and abilities.
Do not be defined by your job. That is not who you are. It is something that you do for a living. If you ever feel the desire to make a living doing something that you really love and that you’re good at, check your life resume as a reference for ideas.
Start seeing yourself for what you are really worth. Your value and worth lies in the things that you enjoy doing and that you are also good at. If you can find a skill on that list which can be monetized, pursue it.
Instead of being defined by your current situation, you can change your thinking from ‘I need a job’ to ‘I desire to build wealth‘ by pursuing something you are truly passionate about. This simple shift will open up a world of possibilities you never saw before.
You are worth so much more than your job.