The Clock Of Life And Your Mind

CHANGE YOUR LIFE, CHANGE YOUR MIND

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There is a scene in Shrek where donkey is sent in the forest to find a plant with blue flowers and red thorns. We then watch him racing through the woodlands, repeating to himself..

“Blue flowers, red thorns”

“Blue flowers, red thorns”

Unfortunately for DonKey, he is colour blind and keeps rushing right by the blue flowers with red thorns without actually seeing them. As the scene shows from Donkey’s perspective, we see that all the flowers in the forest appear grey and bleak to him.

What Donkey experienced in the forest is similar to what happens to us if we have a limiting mind-set. Even though he was given very clear instructions, and he remembered them correctly (he even repeats it constantly), he was just unable to see the blue flowers with red thorns that were right under his nose!

A limiting mind-set can stop you from seeing opportunities that are right in front of you. It shapes your perspective which limits the realm of possibilities. A limiting mind-set can create rules and assumptions about life that are not necessarily true, but greatly limit a person’s potential.

These may be caused by three main reasons:

  1. You don’t believe the opportunity exists. Imagine running through the forest looking for a plant that you strongly believe doesn’t exist. Your mind will not let you see it.
  2. You believe the opportunities exist but that they are out of your reach. You may think that only persons with special privileges can find blue flowers with red thorns
  3. You have never seen this flower yourself, you have heard about it but you highly doubt that you can find it. You think it is so rare that the chance of you finding it is next to zero.

The very first and most important step in bringing about any lasting change in your life is to change your mind-set.

The human brain receives millions of messages every day and has between 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts passing through in any 24 hour period. So, clearly we have a lot going on upstairs. So much, in fact that our brain filters out some of that info and discards it without us even registering it.

Walk into a room, stand for 5 seconds. Walk out and try to remember 20 items you saw in the room. Quite possibly you cannot. The brain filters out what it sees as irrelevant information. It does this based on our beliefs, interests and biases.

After getting a positive pregnancy test, women suddenly start noticing other pregnant women everywhere. Did they just appear? No. The brain becomes biased towards pregnancy because it is now a personal interest.

So, how can we make more of these thought work for us instead of just randomly doing their own useless thing?

  1. Practice Managing Your Thoughts

You need to learn how to select your thoughts just the same way you select your clothes – everyday –  This is a power you can cultivate – Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat Pray Love.

Align your thoughts with your desires. Pull them in when they stray to undesirable, negative, limiting attitudes. Ever see someone walking a couple of dogs on several leashes? Who is in control, the dogs or the person? Each canine wants to go his own happy way, stop when they feel like it or chase a passing car. A good dog walker keeps each dog under control, reeling them in when they stray and get them moving when they stop. If he didn’t do this, they would never arrive at their destination.

Our thoughts require similar monitoring, managing and controlling. If you find yourself thinking you can’t accomplish something, shut that thought down. Replace it with something more positive, more encouraging such as “I may not be where I want to be right now, but I am certainly moving in that direction and will reach their one day”.

Instead of “I can’t do this”, think, “What is the best way to learn how to do this”?

My favourite thought challenge is from Robert Kyosaki, author or “Rich Dad Poor Dad”

Instead of “I can’t afford this”, he recommends asking, “What can I do so that by next year I will be able to afford this?” I call it reverse motivation.

 

2. Find Evidence to Challenge Your Thoughts

Read success stories of persons who have achieved goals that are similar to yours. Listen to motivational speeches and watch the videos. Surround yourself with persons, resources and materials that support your vision. Don’t alter to fit into your environment. Alter your environment to optimize accomplishing your goals.

“I don’t have enough money”, is a common limiting belief. Daymond John wrote an entire book called “The Power of Being Broke”. In fact, after going on to become a very successful angel investor (you gotta be pretty wealthy to be an angel investor FYI), he then started other businesses purposely using less cash than necessary. This is how strongly he believed that the less money a business had to start, the more creativity the person would have to use. And he rates creativity over capital.

Stop limiting yourself.

There is an answer to every question. There is a solution to every problem.

3. Do Your Own Research

Never depend on public opinion. People are trapped by their own limiting beliefs. Dealing with yours is enough without adopting the limiting beliefs of others.

Come up with your own ideas on a topic or subject or business idea based on the research you have done. There are persons who will swear that certain markets are saturated…yet. Another company drops a product, markets it differently and gets amazing result.

Do not limit yourself. Do not discard an idea merely because your neighbour thinks it is bad.

In fact, try to avoid the neighbours who tend to be on the negative side. There are some people who have already given up on their dreams; they are buried under their own limiting beliefs and they are ready and willing to crush yours. Doing your own research will allow you to have your own opinions and your voice is good enough. Don’t be too eager to get validation from others. You might be quite disappointed.

4. Focus Your Thoughts

The human potential is unlimited however our energy and time are very limited. With 24 set hours in a day and several tasks per day to complete, we must prioritize in order to achieve our goal. We will not be getting additional hours in a day to do it, neither are we getting extra energy. So, as we cut back on the distracting thoughts, we will have more brain power to dedicate to achieving what we really want.

“You have to become a little obsessed with your idea for it to work”

Like the pregnant woman who now sees other pregnant women everywhere around her, you are now going to see opportunities you never saw before. Inspiration will be a daily occurrence simply because a larger portion of your energy will be going towards the dream. You will begin to start ‘coincidentally’ bumping into people you can network with and share similar ideas with.

The universe does not like a vacuum. As you cut back on the distractions, more of what you desire will start to fall in place.

Now the Hard Part!

Motivation quotes tend to leave us feeling all mushy inside and warm and fuzzy. Social Media is proof that everyone likes a good motivational/inspirational quote. Yet, 98% of human beings live unfulfilled lives, unreached dreams (www.wealthresearchers.com)

The inspiration will come.

The opportunities will present themselves.

Your job is act on them.

Because nothing works until you do.

Don’t wait until everything is perfectly lined up. Don’t wait until all your duck are in a row. Life is a beautiful, messy, dynamic and unpredictable experience. If you wait on perfection, you will be waiting forever.

Act.

Challenging your thoughts is great. It helps you align your mind-set. Focus is awesome. It creates even more opportunities. But Action is where the magic happens. You always have the choice act in spite of your brain’s limited perceptions.

“I have been impressed with the urgency of doing. Knowing is not enough; we must apply. Being willing is not enough; we must do”. – Leonardo da Vinci

 

24 hours in a day.

Unlimited human potential.

50-70,000 thoughts.

How will you use them?

Overcoming ‘Shiny Job’ Syndrome

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“We are going to have to let you go”.

I heard the words with the surreal realization that I was saying them.

I was firing someone.

As a person who feels deeply, one of my greatest challenges in business was separating my empathy from what had to be done. This employee had received several warnings and probations, but simply refused to or was incapable of complying with our customer service policy.

She had to be let go. I hadn’t made the decision but I supported it and I had to be the one to do it. As operations manager of a fairly small grocery store, the bulk of personnel management duties fell in my lap. I knew it wouldn’t have been a pleasant experience, yet I was not prepared for the begging, the tears, the promises to improve.

At this point, my hands were tied. I had to let her go.

I tried exploring options with her. “What will you do?” (That empathy thing again)

Between sobs, I happened to pick ip a few distressed phrases.. “hairdressing” “beautician certified”…

You’re telling me you have a very practical and high-demand skill yet you choose to stay here and work for someone else as a cashier? Why would you want to do that instead of starting your own business? You could work from home, decide on your own hours, set your own prices… I was taken aback. I had always wished I had a skill that could bring in an extra income..

I couldn’t understand the rationale of this employee. After almost an hour locked in my office, I convinced her to set up her business, offered to print her first set of 100 business cards and to get a few customers (my sisters) to support her initial efforts.

She had the opportunity to easily earn twice what she did now, tax free, working less hours and days than she currently did. Bonus, she didn’t have to operate in a constricting slave like environment or suffer an insufferable boss. My dad wasn’t the most human-asset friendly business owner. He is from an outdated era.

I call this the “Shiny Job Syndrome”. We have been fed the false idea that success is defined as ‘being employed’. We mentally pedestalize this belief and automatedly follow a programing that is outdated.

No matter how impressive the salary, a company can never accurately pay you for the value that you add and the time that you give. No matter how secure the position, there is always the possibility of being laid off, fired, or of the company going bankrupt or out of business. No matter how prestigious the title, depending on the whims and decisions of others steals your creativity. No matter how much initiative you are allowed to exercise, you will never be at the helm.

We spend our lives trying valiantly to protect ourselves from the same crises that will catapult us towards freedom and financial independence.

For years, I wanted to write. I was dissatisfied with my job. Yet, it wasn’t until I lost it all; the income, the security, the great apartment… Not until then did I find the courage to follow my dream with the only thing I had left. Me. I had nothing but myself, my time, my creativity, my initiative, my goals, my dreams, my desires.

It felt strange not having someone to answer to; not having a boss telling me what to do. How would I know when I was doing something wrong?

“You never realize how bound you are until you feel the heavy responsibility of freedom”.

And, it’s scary.

It is a scary thought knowing that, without instructions, every failure, every fumble is your own. There is no one to blame, no company policy to fall back on, no employee assessment to scrape through. But, beyond that fear, lay exhilaration. The thrill that I was creating something that was all me… No template, no rules.. no standards, no limitations. No commission. All mine. Loss or win, I owned the outcome completely.

And, to me that was worth it.

I had to carve out an identity. My old one was lost on having to answer to bosses, fit into corporate images and absorbing job-ideal expectations. I determined that if there ever was a business culture I wanted to support it would be one built on freedom. On the right of every human being to discover and pursue his or passion.

Instead of passively disciplining people, I wanted to help them discover the courage to start their own businesses using skills and interests and passions. So I wrote a book and started this blog.

I made a decision that the risks were worth it, the initial rejections – worth it. The up hill struggle to get that first client – totally worth it. Just to gain my independence, live my passion and do something meaning to me on a personal level.

It’s not easy, but with a little guidance and lots of determination, it can be done.

Check out Creating a Wealthy Mindset on Amazon for practical methods of unplugging your mind from the Shiny Job Syndrome mindset.

How To Stop Being A Victim

THE PITY THRONE

You sit on the exaggerated pile of failures and bad fortune and declare yourself the King of Sorrows. There, on your self made throne of pity, that you have built out of every negative experience you have ever had, you defend your victim-hood.

You guard it with your life.

You pay for it with your potential.

Eventually, it becomes your story; your identity. You forget who you were before these things happened to you. Before the loss, the grief, the abuse, the wrongs. You form a new self; a new persona carved out of complaints, “poor me’s”.

But what do you get from being a victim?

You get the right to be right

After being wronged for so long, you get to feel like the good person in comparison. The problem with this of course is that you are now, not allowed to wrong anyone else; to hurt anyone. So, you begin to fight for the right to always be right. This is a heavy burden for any human being. It’s a tiresome, impossible fight.

You get attention

Everyone likes a good sob story…until they don’t; until it gets old and they long for the company of others who are positive who have uplifting stories to share. But your grief and misfortune demands the attention of everyone. This becomes a heavy burden for those around you.

You feel validated

Finally, people agree that yes, you have been wronged. Validation is a very important aspect of moving beyond abuse and trauma. But it is only one aspect. And constantly depending on others for validation makes you dependent on them eventually. Learn to validate your own feelings and actions.

You no longer have to try

It becomes your free pass from taking risks; trying new things. After all you’re fragile, you’ve been hurt. People will understand and even empathize with your lack of effort. They know how much you have been hurt. You are allowed not to try. When your sad story becomes your identity, people stop expecting much from you.

You get to avoid responsibility

After all, you are the one who has been damaged in some way. Everything you do is understandable. You get away with the outcome of actions, failures because someone else is always to blame.

But most of all you get to be king of something!

“You can’t be victim and victor. Choose one”.

The psychology of victim mentality lies in the concept of learned helplessness.

Some animals were placed in a room (clearly long before animal-rights was a thing). Invisible lasers are fixed at the only exit. Each time the animals would attempt to leave the room, they were jolted with an electric shock causing pain and hence dissuading them from trying to leave.

After several determined attempts, the animals learn.

They stop trying.

They don’t even go near the exit anymore.

The laser is removed from the entrance, but the animals have already learned that it is helpless; escaping is futile. They give up. They accept their new door-less prison.

Everything can be taken from a man or woman but one thing: the last of human freedoms to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances. To choose one’s own way – Victor Frankl (concentration camp survivor)

1. Take Responsibility

Admit to yourself how you could have made better choices. The purpose of this isn’t to direct fault at one party or another but to take back control instead of powerlessly drifting along with the way things are. You always have a choice, even if it is as simple as maintaining a positive attitude in-spite of what has been done to you. This is the most powerful choice of all.

Evaluating your decision making process immediately puts you in the drivers seat. and opens up possibility of a different outcome.

2. Play the “What If” Game

Learned helplessness comes with a side order of negativity which can spiral into a mindset of always expecting bad things to happen. So you look for the bad in order to not disappoint your mindset. Use an ‘opposite outcome’ exercise when you are tempted to expect only the worse. Have  a little chat with yourself. What if, things actually work out well? What if not everyone is trying to hurt/use/abuse me? What if there are nice honest people out there. Newsflash: There are! But victim-hood attracts even more abusive situations. You can change the outcome by expecting good things.

3. Forgive

Yourself firstly, for not being more cautious, for not seeing the red flags; for not choosing you. You are human. Forgive persons who have hurt you. Let it go. You will begin to heal when you have let go of past hurts, forgive those who have wronged you and learn to forgive yourself.

4. Gratitude and Giving

Remind yourself of just how much you have to offer through gratitude and giving back.. What could yo possibly have to give? Your time, your expertise, a listening ear. remove yourself from the complaining seat for once. Try listening and empathizing with someone without comparing your own circumstances or subtly fighting for the place of “biggest victim”. Practice gratitude every single day Make it a first each morning. while still in bed, imaging everything you woke up with.

Gratitude re positions your brain to a place of abundance and opens you up to even more positive vibrations to receive.

Accepting victim-hood is akin to a driver “dying right”. If you are driving on the right side of the road and a vagabond driver tries to overtake putting you in jeopardy, do you swerve to save your own skin or stay on the ‘right of way’ path, and crash?

Don’t let victim-hood cause you to “die right”. Sometimes the only adjustments that can be made are completely up to us.

Entrepreneurship – Solving A Problem

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One of the most common complaints I get from clients is: “Starting a business is so complicated!”

If you have ever attempted to start a business, you would have found out that the red tape alone can choke you. The fees, the paperwork, the taxes, the business plans to beg for a loan… It is all just too much.

How about we simplify things by focusing on the essentials.

Simply put, entrepreneurship is just a long complicated word for ‘solving a problem’.

Every business you can think of whether they sell products or services, all have one thing in common. They offer something that will either simplify, enhance or improve the quality of lives in some way.

Grocery stores simplify our lives by making a wide variety of goods available in one location (platform). For this service, we pay them 15 – 30% extra on the cost of goods we purchase. But I can imagine we much prefer this arrangement to running all over town to the bakery, butcher, farmer etc in order to have our food needs met.

This mark up or profit of 15- 30% can be broken down into labour, packaging, energy cost (to keep meat frozen), rent etc. Every aspect of business can be simplified like this. If sales aren’t great this month, we find a way to increase awareness of our services (marketing) in order to attract more customers.

If if you ever get the feeling that you need a four year degree and years of accounting training to startup, just remember that all you will be doing is solving a problem, for a group of people (market, niche) who have a need.

You can do this.

No matter who or where you are there is something you can do to enhance someone else’s life; to improve their quality of living. You just need to get a little creative. Entrepreneurship banks on the fact that people like to have processes in their lives simplified.

Find a group of people with a problem you can solve. The beauty of E-Commerce is, you have access to a global community. This increases your likelihood of finding people with a problem you can solve. In addition, setting up a platform (website such as Shopify) and marketing (social media such as Facebook) is relatively easy and cheap compared to renting a brick and mortar store and purchasing equipment.

Clearly, your exit strategy (dropping everything and running for the hills if you fail) would be much smoother in E-Commerce as well.

So, think about a problem you can solve. Think about how you can reach the people who have the problem and how much you will charge for your services.

As the world evolves, new problems arise.

It has been said that during the gold rush, it wasn’t the persons doing the digging who made the most money, but rather the ones who sold the digging tools.

If you start a business, keep in mind that your main purpose isn’t profit but to solve a problem. Profit will always follow the solution. Read more on starting a successful business by solving  a problem in Chapter 18, Creating a Wealthy Mindset.

Happy problem solving (business building)!

Losing The Fear Of Change

I didnt forgetwhere i camefrom. i justcan't stay there

The tiles were yellow and faded.

Aged and handled magazines covered the coffee table. As I sat in the doctor’s office of my hometown, I saw several familiar faces. People I had known forever but never quite got around to meeting.

It was my first week on the road as a Pharmaceutical Rep. As I patiently waited for the receptionist to signal for me to steal a few minutes with the doctor, I overheard a conversation between two patients.

“I didn’t know you still lived in this town”. A young man in construction boots and soiled clothes responded, “I was born here. Where else would I be? I’m not going anywhere.”

A very simple realization that many people never get, is that fact that…

You are not a tree!

You are not planted where you were born or to any destination or situation that you happen to land in. You always have a choice to move. As humans, growth and change are not only natural, they are inevitable.

If you choose to stay where you are because you are very happy there, then that’s great! But that is very different from the notion of staying in one place simply because you were born (not planted) there.

You have to no obligation to stay where you are. Travel and explore. Have adventures and discover other places and things that resonate with your desires; your authenticity.

You owe it to yourself to find out what you like and dislike outside the influences of your hometown folk.

Similarly, never stay in a career or a job simply beacause you made that choice when you were younger. Never be afraid to move and try other things. Never be afraid to admit, “This isn’t for me. Let me try something else”. Discover your passion, try a new hobby, start a side business.

See what else is out there.

I dare you to move.

You can start by ordering a copy of Creating a Wealthy Mindset. Start by removing the mental untruths that have prevented you from living the life of your dreams.

Discover financial freedom and pave your path to success.

 

Creating a Wealthy Mindset

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In ‘Creating a Wealthy Mindset’, I share the practical, psychological pathways to overcome the poverty and scarcity mindset, which is literally the only block to achieving great wealth.

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Everything you could ever hope to achieve is possible. The only thing standing between you and greatness is the simple belief that you can’t. This belief is perpetuated and encouraged along by the cues in your social environment.

See, the corporations know this and for decades they have trained us to be happy for the job they have so generously given us and the pittance packages that they hand out – as long as we keep them happily in profit, of course.

They pay us in exchange for …well, our lives actually; time with family, relaxation, mental health, sense of fulfillment and purpose. This is what you hand over for your monthly paycheck.

This is the least effective model to achieve wealth.

In order to accomplish this, we had to be kept in certain mindset; a mindset of scarcity, lack, poverty and constant fear. This mindset is reinforced by cues in the environment, from TV shows to the physical work environment. They keep us competing with each other fighting and scratching to survive.

You compete with several other applicants for the ‘great job’. You compete with the coworkers for a raise or a promotion or even a bonus. This way of thinking that a nine to five is actually security is widely believed and encouraged. We grew up and saw our parents struggling to keep us alive and we continue that tradition.

How about we break the cycle for our kids?

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The person behind the book…

Who am I?

What qualifies me to be asserting these wild claims?

Like you, I grew up in a traditional environment that values things like getting a degree, getting a great paying job then settling down to the white picket fence dream; marriage and kids.

Rinse and repeat.

So, I did that. I graduated at 20 years old with a first degree in Medical Technology. After internship, I worked at the hospital for a year, then in forensics for another year.

Despite the excitement of it all, my salary barely covered my rent, utilities and food. Do not get me started on club cover charges and pricey cocktails.

I followed the money trail back home and worked in the family retail biz for several years.

By 2015, I found myself bored, uninspired and depressed by the thought that this was how life was ‘supposed’ to be.

I was in debt (credit cards, soured investment and hire purchases from Courts – those bailiffs do not play let me tell you)

I had a six year old to support, a divorce to nurse and a half finished Masters in Public Health.

I lost all motivation to complete my graduate studies, when I heard the other classmates (medical doctors, consultants and surgeons) complaining about inadequate salaries and less than ideal working conditions.

I thought to myself:

“There must be another way”

I found that way… In challenging myself to reexamine every single thing I have always believed about success. I combined this with the principles of Psychology and Human Behavior Change that I had studied and researched. I slowly and strategically challenged and removed every mental barrier I dug up. Through months of research, self reflection and observation of the cultural cues in my environment.

I started really seeing and really hearing that almost everything my friends and family said about wealth and success were extremely self – defeating and limiting. I wondered what would happen if we had a money mindset. If we believed we had no barriers to making creating wealth.

The Principle

This is not a con, a trick or a pyramid scheme of any sort. You will never at any point in this program be asked to sign up ‘x’ amount of people to do “Enter ridiculous claim here”.

Work will be required.

But not the kind of work you think. In fact, one of the tips of the wealthy that you will learn in this book is that, you will never attain wealth by constantly working for money!

Yes, I said it. Quote me!

You will never attain wealth by working for money. That would be like chasing a train on foot, in heels, in the hot dessert, while standing in quick sand. In a job, you exchange time for money. Your money is limited by your time, which for health reasons and common sense is limited per day.

The key is to find a way to let money work for you. Think about it. Better yet, lets reflect a bit on slavery (yes, this is a shameless emotional tactic to get your attention).

Chapter 17 has a wealth model that you can implement immediately.

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During that period, slaves did all of the menial, manual work, didn’t they? In the fields all day, in the burning sun, walking for miles to get to work and back, yet got the least amount of pay.

Sounds eerily familiar?

Now, I know what you will say here. Well, Stephanie, that was during slavery, it was immoral and unfair and an unjust system kept going by a privileged few.

Maybe..

But look around my dear friend. Take a good look around. How different is it really today?

Most persons will say that earning opportunities are fairly equal now. A person can choose his/her destiny and determine his/her path. Then why aren’t more of us doing it?

What is the missing factor?

There are no more plantation barriers, no more shackles; at least not physical ones.

Why, then are we still imprisoned in defeat?

But Stephanie, you might insist, if everyone owns their own business or does their own thing, who would be the employees?

Great point, my reader whose mind I just read.

If there was a  greater demand for employees due to supply, then employees would have more negotiating power and able to earn better wages (even claim shares) as opposed to putting up with crumbs because ‘jobs are so scarce and precious’.

In other words, the system works against us and for them!

You can change that. You can shift the power.

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You will not find an equivalent to this EBook on the Net. There are no generic, cliché instructions given such as ‘be positive’ or ‘just believe’ or ‘attract wealth by visualizing bundles of cash’.

What you will find here are practical psychological techniques backed by scientific research and experienced by real people. A way to maneuver around the parts of your brain biased against building wealth.

These are not theories simply pulled out of a hat.

Do not purchase this book unless you are ready for a dramatic transformation in the way you view life, money and building wealth.

Do not purchase this Ebook if you are comfortable with your current standard of living. If you are okay getting by just the way you are now, do not choose the red pill, Neo!

This material is for those who are ready and desperate for a change.

Those persons who always yearned for the life. “that life”.

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People often ask me, Stephanie why are you offering all this valuable information for just US$27.00, when you could be charging more for the value offered?

I truly believe that for every person I help to become successful, that is one less scammer giving Jamaica a bad rep or one less person trying to rob me when I go home at night. Also, my passion is making an impact, particularly in my country where I see people suffering needlessly when we have so much to offer.

I’m offering this EBook for US$27. However anyone who reads and applies the information can start making hundreds of thousands of dollars within a few weeks and eventually become financially free. I’m offering value and guiding others to do the same.

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From Pain To Purpose

He who has the power of turning all negative vibes in his path into positive energy has learned the meaning of life

When I went broke, I experienced severe emotional pain. In my mind, there was nothing more painful than not having a steady stream of income. It stole my independence and my freedom – two of the things I valued dearly.

I got angry

Felt helpless

I felt like a slave to whomever I allowed to offer assistance. It was not a good feeling. I felt lesser than, beneath those who were still taking care of ‘biz’ and handling their lives with their steady incomes.

I also promised myself that I would help anyone who ever found themselves in these circumstances, which formed the foundation of ‘Creating a Wealthy Mindset’.

It soon dawned on me that my identity (idea of who I was) was so closely tied to being financially independent that not being in that place (no matter how temporary) was messing with my self esteem and causing great pain.

What did I have to offer now?

Who was I?

I felt diminished.

The issue wasn’t a lack of money. I certainly wasn’t starving. I ate each day satisfactorily and slept each night in safety. But the very thing I had identified my values with, was stripped from me.

People will fight and claw and do anything to protect that which identifies them.

Whatever you get your value from, is what you will fight tooth and nail for.

Getting and having money is great but what are your values and how are they tied in to how you make money, how you invest that money and your general contribution to the betterment of the world.

In other words, why the hell should you be wealthy?

If you are comfortable where you are right now, smooching off some relative, barely making it by each month what motivation is there to change, to move from where you are?

You need to tap into your pain source

What is the most painful thing about where you are?

Do they feed you but complain about it or give you attitude as they throw food in your mouth?

Do you long for freedom from other people’s idea of living.

So, what identifies you? What are your values? How do you define yourself?

This is your pain.

Use it. Wield it.

Put all that frustrating energy into creating your own life. Design it just the way you want. Let your pain help you to remain uncomfortable until you are where you want to be.

Transform that energy

That pain you feel now is your potential energy. Like a stone being pulled back in a slingshot. That stone holds within it massive energy to buss someone’s head if released (lol), but it won’t do any damage until it’s released. The pulling back of the stone increases its potential energy (the farther back it’s pulled, the greater force it will have when released).

The greater your potential energy (your pain), the greater the force when you become released. So, increase that pain when you can. Use it as your motivation to keep planning, keep going.

This is not the end of your story, merely a dark chapter. That middle chapter of your amazing biography. No great book goes without having a dark scary chapter for the hero/ heroine to overcome.

Dare you to move…

Stephanie ♥