There comes a point when.. you have tried, so many times.. in so many ways..yet you keep failing again and again. That point when everything you touch turns to s**t and you begin to imagine forces beyond your control puppeteering your life and sabotaging all your plans.
If it has never happened to you count yourself lucky and if it does one day, come back and read this post.
For those of us who have had these frustrating experiences, we know the temptation to give up. We have been familiar with the fear of trying anything else; the fear of tying up anymore precious capital by trying another attempt or most importantly, the fear of facing the disappointment in your loved ones eyes… if they are still around.
You have already lost so much. More than seems bearable. You have felt the humiliation of being proven wrong, the burden of defeat, the clouds of doubt in our abilities to rise again.
You feel cursed.
Repeated failure in business is a hard blow to take. Not only is your ability to attain success under scrutiny, but your very identity, which is usually closely tied to your occupation, is openly questioned. It is a loss and it is painful.
Why does this keep happening?
Are you truly cursed?
I am not about to dig into the definition, history and cultural appropriation of curses. But I will say that the principle of a curse is based on a transfer of power. When you believe that you are cursed, you begin to operate within the limitations of this belief. You then give up on trying, admit defeat and stop half way on your journey to greatness.
Cursed or not, you have more mental power than you think to battle all your limiting beliefs. The only way to take down a powerful force is by using its own power. If a curse can make you believe that you are indeed powerless, the curse (or those who desire to curse you) wins the battle.
A man is already defeated if he believes his inability to fight back.
If negative words have been coded into your subconscious, you have the power to challenge and overcome these beliefs. This programmed thinking is a kind of curse.
A person’s mind is so powerful. It can invent, create, experience and destroy things with thoughts alone.
All it takes is one negative belief.
One comes to believe whatever one repeats to oneself whether the statement is true or not.
Your magnificent, resourceful and logical brain, then tries to find evidence through memories and in your present environment to support this one belief in order to maintain consistency.
You Can Regain Control
Whether an outside force or an internal one, you can ‘break a curse’ by resetting and reinforcing new thoughts – positive thoughts about yourself and encouraging thoughts about your circumstances.
Get your brain back on your side!
1. Maintain a supportive environment
Surround yourself with people who believe in you. Avoid the naysayers, whose words facilitate the curse experience. Find people who have similar goals and dreams and network with them. Environment is one of the most effective factors in behavior change
2. Keep a list of all your accomplishments and positive contributions nearby
The brain operates in a logical, fact – controlled way. If we feed it evidence that suggests a certain thing, it will look for even more evidence to support that belief in order to maintain consistency. Remind yourself every now and then of all the wonderful things you have done.
3. Practice gratitude
The principle of gratitude works by reinforcing thoughts of abundance in your mind. It takes the focus off what you don’t have and places it on what you do have. Gratitude is very effective in resetting ‘curse mentality’ that takes hold in the mind.
4. Be patient with yourself
This thought process didn’t develop overnight. In fact many of these limiting beliefs take root during childhood and will require time, patience and reinforcement to be completely removed.
5. Practice Self compassion
Don’t beat yourself up. We do the best we can with the tools we have until we discover better ways or tools to work with. It’s all a part of the process of growth.