You Lose To Learn. But Learn What?

As low as you can goAs high as you can fly

I stared at the bathroom mirror not really seeing my reflection. I saw instead through my peripheral sight, my newly constructed vision sheet. It sparkled with its artistically designed collection of my future ambitions and goals.

Little did I know that, according to Paulo Coelho in that fated moment that my Bic pen (yes they still exist) hit that piece of paper…. the minute those squiggles that form words and language were drawn on my son’s construction parchment… In that very moment…

“The universe started to conspire to bring me eveything I had asked for” – The Alchemist, Paulo Coelho.

Based on the law of polarity, as low as you can go is as high as you will fly. In other words, the universe heeded my request by first bringing me to a depth I had not previously known so that I could eventually attain the height that I desired. There is a direct relationship between how low we go and how high we can fly.

So, back to the question: What do we learn when we lose?

  • If we lose friends and associates, we learn how to be self reliant.
  • If we lose financial abundance, we learn how to use our creativity to get things done.
  • If we lose our indpendence, we learn how to humbly depend on others.
  • We lose our material possessions to learn that happiness does not depend on them.
  • We lose our sense of security to learn that no such thing truly exists.

Trust me the universe is not partial. If you require success, it will drag you through the depths you need to experience in order to achieve this success. I dare mention here the old adage, ‘Be careful what you wish/pray/ask for’.

If your ambitions are high and your dreams lofty, you will lose. You have to lose. It is the only path to grow into what you desire to become. If you desire spiritual enlightenment, you will lose the comfort of all the beliefs that you were taught about spirituality.

No one can attain a higher level by staying on the same plane. There are thigs you will have to let go to move up. These are things you will lose, possibly repeatedly until you get the message… until your mental paradigm is forcefully shifted into a new set of beliefs.

This is why you lose… anything. And this is how you learn.

The paper on the bathroom mirror included a starburst with the words “Monthly income of $450,000” written in. At some point on the journey, when my vision expanded exponentially I wrote the EBook, Creating a Wealthy Mindset. I then went back to that bathroom mirror and I added a ‘0’ to that figure.

“Monthly income of $4,500,000” it now read. Almost immediately, I started to experience more loss. The previous challenges I had been through prepared me for a $450,000 monthly income not a four point five million dollar one! So, I had to be plunged even further down in order to be prepared for a seven figure income.

That innocent act of writing another zero on my expected monthly earnings, catapulted a series of changes and the universe conspired even further to help me achieve this goal. I faced more loss, more betrayal, more disappointments. I experienced a lonliness that is still indescribable. The 450,000 dollar plans started to fail one by one to make way for 4.5 million dollar plans.

“Every adversity, every failure and every heartache, carries within it the seed of an equal or greater benefit” – Napoleon Hill

Decide how high you desire to fly and prepare for the equal depths of loss and failure. My hope is that in understanding exactly what’s happening to you, you wont give up. There is a method to this madness.

Feel free to share your own experiences with failure and loss and how you learned from them.

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You Are NOT Your Job!

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Why is it so depressing to lose one’s job?

Ok, admittedly, you just lost the income you have been living off and depending on for food and bill payments. (that sentence was indeed quite depressing)

But really..

Even when you are still eating quite well, sleeping in a comfortable bed and not facing prison for any major debts, being unemployed just seems to have its own personal, dark cloud of gloom.

The problem is, like most other unshakable irrational characteristics of societal living, your job forms a huge part of your identities.

We let jobs decide just how valuable we feel. We allow them to dictate our worth as a contributing member of society. On an attached thread, we allow our salaries to determine our worth.

This is a destructive thought process considering we have very little control over being hired, fired or demoted at any time.

Despite what you have been hardwired to believe, your worth is not determined by your job.

Don’t believe me?

Think of all the skills and talents you have that do not directly contribute to your current job description. The boss doesn’t know about your amazing TV trivia skills. Neither does he know that you have a knack for fashion and constantly get complimented on your great outfits. The fact that you can make a moist yummy chocolate cake from scratch has never come up in a performance assessment.

Think about it.

Go ahead and take a minute to write down all the things that you are really good at and that you actually enjoy doing. The things you would never list on a resume because recruiters don’t give two hoots about those kinds of skills.

In fact, create a “life resume” listing all your amazing experiences. Add personal experiences you are really proud of such as quit smoking, taking  a public speaking course , learning a language or performing a choreographed, dance routine in front of hundreds of people. (Such memories)

Be sure to add all your great qualities, unique skills, the things that your friends always call you for advice about. All these things are what make you, you. Not your job. It is said humans only use a small percentage of the brain.

Well, most jobs only require a very small percentage of your entire life skills, strengths and abilities.

Do not be defined by your job. That is not who you are. It is something that you do for a living. If you ever feel the desire to make a living doing something that you really love and that you’re good at, check your life resume as a reference for ideas.

Start seeing yourself for what you are really worth. Your value and worth lies in the things that you enjoy doing and that you are also good at. If you can find a skill on that list which can be monetized, pursue it.

Instead of being defined by your current situation, you can change your thinking from ‘I need a job’ to ‘I desire to build wealth‘ by pursuing something you are truly passionate about. This simple shift will open up a world of possibilities you never saw before.

You are worth so much more than your job.

The Purpose of Negative Emotions

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Negative or unwanted emotions are a part of our experience of being human and are unavoidable. In fact, they are very clear signs that we are emotionally healthy humans. We feel sad when something undesirable happens or guilty when we have caused someone else pain or harm. This is a healthy sign that we are capable of empathy; the one characteristic that differentiates us from psychopaths.

Negative emotions, although uncomfortable are healthy, natural occurrences. Like other emotions, they are not permanent. They do not exist to torment us forever. No matter how painful that breakup was and how convincing the present feeling is that the pain will never end. Emotions come and they go.

Negative energy on the other hand, occurs when we cling to negative emotions longer than we should. The unresolved feelings after a breakup can develop into depression, thoughts of self-harm or obsession. Unchecked jealousy and envy have been motivators in many homicide investigations. The key is to learn from the negative emotion then let it leave.

“You must let the pain visit. You must allow it to teach you. You must not allow it to overstay.”

The pain from negative emotions alert us to the things we find undesirable. This is a very useful tool in discovering authenticity and purpose. We tend to focus on the things that make us happy and excited when trying to discover passion and purpose. But the things that trigger our undesirable emotions are powerful clues to who we  truly are.

Among the various pathways to passion described in Creating a Wealthy Mindset, I mentioned revisiting childhood desires, dreams and role models. However, your childhood upsets and indignations point to the things that bother you; things you want to change. These are the causes that you will be willing to fight for; your purpose.

As a child, I was upset by seeing animals being mistreated. To my parents’ dismay, I took in strays as pets and always had cats hidden under my bed. I thought at one point I would be a veterinarian. It so happened, I had a passion for the ‘underdog’ so to speak. I was eventually led to uplift and motivate others to live fulfilling lives by overcoming their internal obstacles.

It took a few years and several attempts before I was able to clearly define that purpose. But each negative experience (and my over the top reaction to it) led me, inch by inch towards my authenticity and ‘calling’.

Your negative experiences and emotions are powerful indicators of the things that you were meant to do. They serve as a pathway to your deepest passions. It will not be a linear process and can be quite murky and confusing at the beginning but pay very close attention to the things that upset you. The causes that get you riled up, trigger your rage; that gets that fire in your belly.

These are the emotions that will push you to take action.

Anger is a great hint for figuring out the things that you are passionate about. If it triggers such powerful emotions in you, it might be worth pursuing.

Envy is a sign that you aspire to be somewhere that you haven’t reached yet; somewhere someone else has already reached. Guilt suggests an issue that needs to be resolved either by apology, corrective action or both.  If you feel like an underachiever, it simply means that you have great ambitions and your subconscious is nudging you towards attaining them. Every discomfort has its purpose.

Negative emotions are guides.

Observe them closely and follow them on your journey to greatness.

Think Your Way To Success

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Consider your thoughts and dreams a preview of your life’s coming attractions.

At the risk of sounding a bit ‘New agey’, this concept isn’t very different from the law of attraction. At the risk of sounding like a hard, cold scientist, there is logic to the theory and it has been proven repeatedly.

Whether or not you have difficulties believing the theory , this line of thought bears a lot of weight. Skeptics can no longer deny the power of the human mind. Scientists in a never ending need to prove everything, have begun to explore metaphysics as a discipline in an effort to explain previously mysterious phenomena.

The take away message remains the same:

The human brain is much more powerful than we have previously believed.

Simply put, your thoughts play a huge role when it comes to your success.

The earliest clues came from studying conditions such as phobias or compulsions in an adult life that could be traced back to adverse childhood experiences. For example, a near drowning experience as a child will lead to an adult terrified of learning how to swim. This person develops a strong fear of going near large bodies of water without knowing why. They may not even remember the childhood episode. The subconscious in an effort to protect the child, laid down a program declaring that “going near water is unsafe” followed automatically by the conscious. The person carries this belief into adulthood.

What false beliefs have you been carrying around?

To achieve success, you must remove these false protectors that your brain has established in an effort to keep you safe. You are now an adult. You are  mature enough to take precautions and calculate the risks involved in your actions. You are no longer helpless and incapable of protecting yourself. Unfortunately, your brain may still be operating on that old software.

If thoughts and beliefs that oppose success are buried in your subconscious then you are the only one standing in your own way.

If you grew up hearing statements such as “money doesn’t grow on trees”, “only bad people like druggists or thieves attain wealth”, “money has to do with luck in life”, or even “learn to live within your means”, your mental programming has been blocking you from success.

In Creating a Wealthy Mindset, I outline all the success-stopping false beliefs along with methodological ways to eliminate these obstacles.

Start removing your mental barriers today. Email me at repaintingthewheel@gmail.com to order your copy. Also available on Amazon here.

 

 

Entrepreneurship – Solving A Problem

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One of the most common complaints I get from clients is: “Starting a business is so complicated!”

If you have ever attempted to start a business, you would have found out that the red tape alone can choke you. The fees, the paperwork, the taxes, the business plans to beg for a loan… It is all just too much.

How about we simplify things by focusing on the essentials.

Simply put, entrepreneurship is just a long complicated word for ‘solving a problem’.

Every business you can think of whether they sell products or services, all have one thing in common. They offer something that will either simplify, enhance or improve the quality of lives in some way.

Grocery stores simplify our lives by making a wide variety of goods available in one location (platform). For this service, we pay them 15 – 30% extra on the cost of goods we purchase. But I can imagine we much prefer this arrangement to running all over town to the bakery, butcher, farmer etc in order to have our food needs met.

This mark up or profit of 15- 30% can be broken down into labour, packaging, energy cost (to keep meat frozen), rent etc. Every aspect of business can be simplified like this. If sales aren’t great this month, we find a way to increase awareness of our services (marketing) in order to attract more customers.

If if you ever get the feeling that you need a four year degree and years of accounting training to startup, just remember that all you will be doing is solving a problem, for a group of people (market, niche) who have a need.

You can do this.

No matter who or where you are there is something you can do to enhance someone else’s life; to improve their quality of living. You just need to get a little creative. Entrepreneurship banks on the fact that people like to have processes in their lives simplified.

Find a group of people with a problem you can solve. The beauty of E-Commerce is, you have access to a global community. This increases your likelihood of finding people with a problem you can solve. In addition, setting up a platform (website such as Shopify) and marketing (social media such as Facebook) is relatively easy and cheap compared to renting a brick and mortar store and purchasing equipment.

Clearly, your exit strategy (dropping everything and running for the hills if you fail) would be much smoother in E-Commerce as well.

So, think about a problem you can solve. Think about how you can reach the people who have the problem and how much you will charge for your services.

As the world evolves, new problems arise.

It has been said that during the gold rush, it wasn’t the persons doing the digging who made the most money, but rather the ones who sold the digging tools.

If you start a business, keep in mind that your main purpose isn’t profit but to solve a problem. Profit will always follow the solution. Read more on starting a successful business by solving  a problem in Chapter 18, Creating a Wealthy Mindset.

Happy problem solving (business building)!