When I went broke, I experienced severe emotional pain. In my mind, there was nothing more painful than not having a steady stream of income. It stole my independence and my freedom – two of the things I valued dearly.
I got angry
I felt like a slave to whomever I allowed to offer assistance. It was not a good feeling. I felt lesser than, beneath those who were still taking care of ‘biz’ and handling their lives with their steady incomes.
I also promised myself that I would help anyone who ever found themselves in these circumstances, which formed the foundation of ‘Creating a Wealthy Mindset’.
It soon dawned on me that my identity (idea of who I was) was so closely tied to being financially independent that not being in that place (no matter how temporary) was messing with my self esteem and causing great pain.
What did I have to offer now?
Who was I?
I felt diminished.
The issue wasn’t a lack of money. I certainly wasn’t starving. I ate each day satisfactorily and slept each night in safety. But the very thing I had identified my values with, was stripped from me.
People will fight and claw and do anything to protect that which identifies them.
Whatever you get your value from, is what you will fight tooth and nail for.
Getting and having money is great but what are your values and how are they tied in to how you make money, how you invest that money and your general contribution to the betterment of the world.
In other words, why the hell should you be wealthy?
If you are comfortable where you are right now, smooching off some relative, barely making it by each month what motivation is there to change, to move from where you are?
You need to tap into your pain source
What is the most painful thing about where you are?
Do they feed you but complain about it or give you attitude as they throw food in your mouth?
Do you long for freedom from other people’s idea of living.
So, what identifies you? What are your values? How do you define yourself?
This is your pain.
Use it. Wield it.
Put all that frustrating energy into creating your own life. Design it just the way you want. Let your pain help you to remain uncomfortable until you are where you want to be.
Transform that energy
That pain you feel now is your potential energy. Like a stone being pulled back in a slingshot. That stone holds within it massive energy to buss someone’s head if released (lol), but it won’t do any damage until it’s released. The pulling back of the stone increases its potential energy (the farther back it’s pulled, the greater force it will have when released).
The greater your potential energy (your pain), the greater the force when you become released. So, increase that pain when you can. Use it as your motivation to keep planning, keep going.
This is not the end of your story, merely a dark chapter. That middle chapter of your amazing biography. No great book goes without having a dark scary chapter for the hero/ heroine to overcome.
Dare you to move…